My Lifeline: F.R.I.E.N.D.S

I am still speechless!
I have had a lot of people walk in an out of my life. Some people stay and some people don't.
Last week I met an old friend of mine. Not any normal friend, someone who has touched my life immensely. The minute we met, she gave me a hug that could not have meant anything but "Damn girl, I missed you a lot". There were issues between us that had no solution 5 years ago...But today it all seemed insignificant. She means a lot to me now, just like she did 5 years back.

I have managed to analyse my friends. I only mean the closest of the closest.

Places I met first met them:

School: 2
College: 2
Random: 3
Office: 2

How do I know that they mean a lottttt to me?

1. My sms's are more than 1 part long.
2. I am offline on gtalk and still start a conversation.
3. I skype or call often!! I hate chatting and calling people.
4. I fight when I get reduced attention or late news.
5. I yearn for a hug and a quality conversation.
6. I run around and jump when I have news to give them.
7. I can spend hours patting their backs to make them sleep.
8. I say "Thank you for your day. You made my day." after a meeting that I loved.
9. I try to make decisions for them.
10. I spend their money shamelessly and think not once to spend mine on them.

If you are one of the people in my life who I value...based on the criteria above, please never give up on me. I am a fool and I don't know how to talk...but I love you
and I mean it when I say it! Friends make my life worth it!

Theory Of Mankind:

I was in a restaurant with my team from work and this question was posed to me.
"What is love?" my boss asked.
I was astound! I love the man I am going to marry but did I know what love was?!!!
"Do you know the person you want to marry?", he shot again.
I wanted the world to open up and suck me in. I still remained speechless.
They were the ones who were high and them blabbering made sense to a sober mind of mine. But why was I so puzzled??!!!
Then came the last canon on my head. "Can you love just one person in life?".
He was my boss and I could not say much in resistance, so I entered my pensive mode. I spoke less and thought more. Thinking is sometimes the last thing I do...because I talk faster than I think. I am not demeaning myself as an individual but clarifying for the many times I say things I should not have said!
Dinner was over and people left. Nobody even gave those questions a second thought. I think they were being kind enough not to pounce on a soul soon getting wed. I left with a heavy heart but not too long after that did I find my answers.
Just like the apple that knocked off Newton's head to make him realise gravity, an sms from a guy I knew and loved in the past triggered off some thoughts.
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7 years ago that seemed like the definition of love...but was it?
Did I still love him now?
Is thinking about all this almost as bad as cheating on the one I love the most?
Is love just defined by marriage or social obligations?
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Answers:
What I had learnt about love & years back laid one of the basic of the very many foundations necessary for building relationships in life.
Yes I loved him, because that was my definition of love then and I still do because that is not the only definition of love.
Over these years, not being together with a person has only meant that the love that was between us could not turn into a marriage.
I have exactly 7 people in my life apart from family who I love without bounds. Guys and girls included. This does not mean that I lust the two "boy"friends of mine! But I love them.
When you decide to marry someone, it is mostly based on a chemistry and bodily hormones. Age is the primary factor. In my case I dont quite know which one it is!!

I can define it like this:

You marry when:
LOVE= Friendship + chemistry + hormones racing + similar interests + age + social/physical compatibility + LUCK + trust
You are friends when:
LOVE=Concern + intuition + trust + affection
You are best friends when:
LOVE=Friendship + chemistry + similar interests + social compatibility + trust


Note:When you dont marry some one it automatically falls best friends category.

Conclusion:
There is no one love in life. There is love everywhere. It follows the law of the universe. "All matter can be transformed from one form to another but cannot be destroyed".


Accepting instead of expecting will make life seem love-filled!!!